Why Good Relationships Don’t Just Happen

We need to consciously think about what makes a good relationship, not expect them to magically happen.

Source: Why Good Relationships Don’t Just Happen

“If our intimate relationships have such an effect on our wellbeing, why do we let them drop to the bottom of our priority lists and just hope for the best?” asks Lisa Stevenson.

Our lives are generally planned. We plan meals, appointments for the doctor, dentist, hair salon. We plan holidays, weekend activities. We plan weddings and engagements and christenings. We plan work, time with friends, finances, chores.

Yet most people I meet at my practice in Cheadle, Cheshire have never planned their relationship.  When couples arrive in therapy they can detail how they met and what’s gone awry, but when I ask about their relationship vision most draw a blank.

Sure, each entered the relationship with hopes and dreams some of which were voiced in the romantic phase of the relationship. But mostly the needs and wants of two individuals remain unconscious.

At our Getting The Love You Want couples weekends, we talk about each stage of the relationship and support couples to move toward a more consciously connected relationship with safety and joy at it’s core.

Why not come and join us.

 

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