How can I be me with you?
Learn healthier ways of communicating and alternative ways to manage conflict in your closest relationship. Better communication in itself can offer a sense of relief from recent problems and stuckness. Couples therapy offers you a space to explore your issues, where you will both have the opportunity to be truly heard and validated.
Reconnect with hope
When problems arise with the person you care most about, it’s usual to feel disillusioned, isolated, scared and angry. When arguing seems endless and the problems too raw and emotional to resolve, often couples begin to consider ending the relationship. Get in touch and I will help you find ways in which you can both move forward.
Some couples long for a deeper intimacy with their partner. It is usual for our relationships to have endured the birth of children, death of loved ones, empty-nest, financial changes, infidelity, loss of trust and more.
Therapy can offer you a way of understanding your co-created patterns of relating. Exploring your individual and joint values, beliefs and opinions, you can gain more insight into how these impact your day-to-day relationship.
I highly recommend the Getting The Love You Want couples workshop as an alternative or addition to therapy. This fantastic workshop gives you opportunity to look at “the bigger picture”. Throughout the weekend you’ll identify what’s underpinning the stuckness that’s getting in the way of you having a closer, loving connection.
Conflict is growth trying to happen
Harville Hendrix
Sometimes ‘later’ becomes ‘never’…
Couples often leave it too long before getting support. This means the conflict, anger and resentment is deeply embedded by the time you arrive in the therapy room. Get in contact today and I will support you in regaining a close loving relationship.
No therapist can magic your relationship better or ‘fix’ the problems you’re having. You will both need to be committed to making the necessary changes you want. That means making time for each other in therapy sessions and during the days in between.
Growth is never by mere chance; it is the result of forces working together.
James Cash Penny
How I work…
I work with couples who are married, living together, gay, bi, and straight in an accepting, safe and confidential way, where both partners are equally considered.
I use Imago Relationships Therapy and Transactional Analysis as frameworks to support you in understanding how you relate to your partner. Couples therapy works best when each partner uses the space for self reflection to understand the part you play in the relationship dynamic.
The outcome of therapy depends on your willingness to become interested in the world of the other. When we better understand the world of the other, we are more able to behave compassionately towards them. When both partners engage in this deeply connected way of seeing the other, relationships thrive.
Some common problems couples seek help with are:
- taking the relationship and one another for granted
- reconnection after a life change – children leaving home, birthday milestones, retirement etc.
- desire for a deeper loving connection and fulfillment
- infidelity
- stuckness, boredom, constant arguments and bickering
- loss of or differences in sexual intimacy
- conflict with parenting styles, issues with conceiving, IVF, and early years of parenting
- loss and death, unresolved grief
- unresolved childhood issues
- aggression and anger
- separation and divorce, particularly when children are involved
After the initial appointment, most couples work together over another 6-8 sessions with an option to continue as long as you wish. Sessions can be 60 or 90mins either weekly or fortnightly depending on what suits you both best.
We’ll talk about this during our first meeting to make sure you arrange a time that you can both commit to. Get in touch today, I look forward to hearing from you.